When suffering a job loss—or not getting the one you want—you experience disappointment and are feeling miserable. It would be weird if you didn’t feel unhappy. Negative feelings surrounding a loss are universal. On one hand, feeling miserable is an acknowledgement that you didn’t get what you wanted. On the other hand, those “I feel miserable” emotions encourage you to go out and get what you want. So there is a silver lining here.
But when things go bad, your emotions can be off-the-wall. Psychologist Albert Ellis said no matter how unfairly you were treated, you have the power and ability to change your thinking. This can decrease or demolish anxiety or hostility.
In his book, “How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything, Dr Ellis says you can choose not to feel bad. You can choose to feel very annoyed, a little annoyed, or hardly annoyed at all. Just decide to focus on the advantages of losing your job. Or make yourself quite pleased about not getting selected. Who needs a two-hour commute?
How not to feel bad? You have to work at it. But you can definitely choose to do it.
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