Feeling Miserable 

When suffering a job loss—or not getting the one you want—you experience disappointment and are feeling miserable. It would be weird if you didn’t feel unhappy. Negative feelings surrounding a loss are universal. On one hand, feeling miserable is an acknowledgement that you didn’t get what you wanted. On the other hand, those “I feel miserable” emotions encourage you to go out and get what you want. So there is a silver lining here.

But when things go bad, your emotions can be off-the-wall. Psychologist Albert Ellis said no matter how unfairly you were treated, you have the power and ability to change your thinking. This can decrease or demolish anxiety or hostility.

In his book, “How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything, Dr Ellis says you can choose not to feel bad. You can choose to feel very annoyed, a little annoyed, or hardly annoyed at all. Just decide to focus on the advantages of losing your job. Or make yourself quite pleased about not getting selected. Who needs a two-hour commute?

How not to feel bad? You have to work at it. But you can definitely choose to do it.

You may also be interested reading Job Loss Depression.

Copyright ©2015 by Ransom (Randy) Place

About the Author

RANDY PLACE IS A JOB-FINDING and executive coach, writer on career topics, broadcaster, and host of yourcareerservice.com. For twenty-three years, he helped thousands of employees who had been let go from JPMorgan Chase find jobs. And he coached executives at CBS Television, Pitney Bowes, and major outplacement firms in New York on job-finding techniques, communications skills, and selling strategies. An accomplished seminar leader and speaker, Randy has designed and presented workshops on interviewing, telephoning techniques, job-search writing, and sales training nationwide. Randy's groundbreaking nationally syndicated radio series, Your Career Service, has been heard on over two hundred radio stations across the United States. And his articles on career topics have appeared in the Wall Street Journal's National Business Employment Weekly. A former broadcast journalist in New York, he has also been a commercial spokesperson for an array of national and regional advertisers. In addition, Randy was a sales executive at NBC Radio and the New York City sales manager for syndication at Wolper Productions. He holds a Bachelor's in Sociology and Broadcasting from Syracuse University, and a Master's in Journalism from New York University.