How Do I Change My Behavior?

Your behavior on the job or during your search is either effective or it’s not. If you’re getting the results you want, there’s no need to ask yourself, “How do I change my behavior?” But when you’re unhappy with the way things are going, simply choose behaviors that allow you to get the job done.

Separating who you are from what you do, and looking at your emotions for feedback, accomplish how to change behavior. This gives you a chance to change the way you do things and avoid feelings of shame and regret. If you experience those negative feelings, you might need to stop being so hard on yourself by understanding that you are a human being, not a human doing. You’ll comprehend this by learning to separate who you are from what you do.

When you see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you, you’ll know you’re okay just the way you are. So while it’s not your inner being that needs work, you might need to change some of your manners.

How to change behavior is easy. Just examine how you’re doing on the job or job search and change behaviors that keep you from getting what you want.

Copyright © 2015 by Ransom Place

About the Author

RANDY PLACE IS A JOB-FINDING and executive coach, writer on career topics, broadcaster, and host of For twenty-three years, he helped thousands of employees who had been let go from JPMorgan Chase find jobs. And he coached executives at CBS Television, Pitney Bowes, and major outplacement firms in New York on job-finding techniques, communications skills, and selling strategies. An accomplished seminar leader and speaker, Randy has designed and presented workshops on interviewing, telephoning techniques, job-search writing, and sales training nationwide. Randy's groundbreaking nationally syndicated radio series, Your Career Service, has been heard on over two hundred radio stations across the United States. And his articles on career topics have appeared in the Wall Street Journal's National Business Employment Weekly. A former broadcast journalist in New York, he has also been a commercial spokesperson for an array of national and regional advertisers. In addition, Randy was a sales executive at NBC Radio and the New York City sales manager for syndication at Wolper Productions. He holds a Bachelor's in Sociology and Broadcasting from Syracuse University, and a Master's in Journalism from New York University.