When you’re having trouble coping with a job loss, you don’t know whether to scream, go bowling, or sue the bastards. Your initial outcry, “I’ve been screwed,” is only natural.
Dealing with rejection of any kind is one of life’s messiest situations. But in order to move on with your career, you must deal with it.
Three easy ways of dealing with emotions after being handed a pink slip
- Allow yourself a period of time to mourn over your loss. On the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale—a list of life events that can make you sick—losing your job is right up there with loss of a loved one. Because emotions generated by a job loss can be just as overwhelming, you need to allow for a mourning period as you acknowledge your feelings and decide to cope with change.
- Get busy with your job search. Activity is one of the best antidotes for feeling depressed.
I learned this truism one morning when a fellow career coach greeted me with, “How are you today?” When I replied I was feeling depressed, Cindy suggested that getting into activity would be the best medicine. It was. Since then, I work on a project as a way of dealing with lowered feelings.
- When talking to people, leave your emotions behind. Your anger is projected onto prospective employers whenever you wallow in emotions. This can ruin relationships. When your anger shows, you’ll blow the interview and bowl a lousy game.
Why you should give top priority to your emotions
You’ll deal well with emotional states by admitting the problem causing your feelings exists and is affecting your life—especially your career plan.
If you’re still having difficulty coping and are thinking, “somebody throw me a rope,” then agree to consult with a therapist, career coach, or social worker. They can help you to move on.
Most of you will not be forced to abandon a job search while dealing with emotions surrounding a job loss. But it’s a good idea to slow down its pace. Just continue the networking, self-assessment, and resume writing stages of your job finding campaign. Those items take the most time, anyhow.
So if your job has been cut, give top priority to dealing with your emotional state. This will help remove the psychological barriers that keep you from being at your best when interviewing for the job you want.
RANDY PLACE is the author of “Your One-Minute Job Finding Coach: How to Find a Job and Manage Your Career While Coping With The Hassles of It all.” To discover how this book can help your job-finding campaign with 60-second coaching vignettes, CLICK HERE
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