You’ll find emotional relief by venting your feelings to a friend or to your spouse. When you get steamed-up about something and fail to share those feelings, you will explode. What happens to you corresponds to what happens to a pressure cooker when steam is not released through a steam release valve. It explodes! Your pressure-relief valve is venting emotions to somebody you trust. Then you’ll find emotional relief and can get on with your job hunt.
The custom of venting emotions—talking it out— has its roots in religion. Almost four-hundred years ago, St. Francis DeSales called sharing your heart’s grief with others “the remedy of remedies.” Talking things over with somebody brings you instant relief and lets you endure the situation.
Yet many employees and job hunters think they’re not supposed to be angry or to feel resentment. So they hide emotions and become pressure cookers. This often leads to emotionally unhealthy behaviors that show up on the job and at interviews.
So if something bothers you, follow these three easy steps for emotional relief: Share it. Admit it. Vent it.
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