How to Find Emotional Rrelief

You’ll find emotional relief by venting your feelings to a friend or to your spouse. When you get steamed-up about something and fail to share those feelings, you will explode. What happens to you corresponds to what happens to a pressure cooker when steam is not released through a steam release valve. It explodes! Your pressure-relief valve is venting emotions to somebody you trust. Then you’ll find emotional relief and can get on with your job hunt.

The custom of venting emotions—talking it out— has its roots in religion. Almost four-hundred years ago, St. Francis DeSales called sharing your heart’s grief with others “the remedy of remedies.” Talking things over with somebody brings you instant relief and lets you endure the situation.

Yet many employees and job hunters think they’re not supposed to be angry or to feel resentment. So they hide emotions and become pressure cookers. This often leads to emotionally unhealthy behaviors that show up on the job and at interviews.

So if something bothers you, follow these three easy steps for emotional relief: Share it. Admit it. Vent it.

Copyright © 2015 by Ransom Place

About the Author

RANDY PLACE IS A JOB-FINDING and executive coach, writer on career topics, broadcaster, and host of For twenty-three years, he helped thousands of employees who had been let go from JPMorgan Chase find jobs. And he coached executives at CBS Television, Pitney Bowes, and major outplacement firms in New York on job-finding techniques, communications skills, and selling strategies. An accomplished seminar leader and speaker, Randy has designed and presented workshops on interviewing, telephoning techniques, job-search writing, and sales training nationwide. Randy's groundbreaking nationally syndicated radio series, Your Career Service, has been heard on over two hundred radio stations across the United States. And his articles on career topics have appeared in the Wall Street Journal's National Business Employment Weekly. A former broadcast journalist in New York, he has also been a commercial spokesperson for an array of national and regional advertisers. In addition, Randy was a sales executive at NBC Radio and the New York City sales manager for syndication at Wolper Productions. He holds a Bachelor's in Sociology and Broadcasting from Syracuse University, and a Master's in Journalism from New York University.