Office Rmances — part two

Falling in love at the office can be problematic. To keep out of trouble, keep your office romance on a professional level.

“The best advice I can give regarding office affairs is to avoid them altogether,” said infidelity expert Ruth Houston in a printed report. “The risks greatly outweigh the rewards.”

Houston, like most infidelity experts, advises not having office affairs, period. But let’s face it—opposites do attract. And because you spend approximately 65 percent of your life at the office, what better place is there to meet someone with whom you’d either like to take to lunch or to enjoy some hanky panky with, or both?

So if you’re already office lovers, tempted to have an office affair, or simply wondering if you should ask a coworker out, Houston offers four guidelines to help keep your office romance on a professional level:

  1. Confine your wandering eyes to someone who is a peer, versus a colleague above or below your rank. It’s a big no-no to get involved with somebody below your rank,
  2. Keep your office affair under the radar. If you flaunt it, your colleagues will become jealous and you’ll become toast.
  3. No kissy-face, hugging, or holding hands in public, or heaven forbid, having office sex on the stairwell, in a storage closet, or company parking lot. Office intercourse is a job killer.
  4. Remember company e-mails and voicemails are not secret. So don’t use them to send passionate or suggestive love notes or x-rated voicemails to each other.

While one of Houson’s points—to avoid office romances completely—migh be impractical, one of her recommendations is the most practical of all. It’s to be prepared to initiate a job-finding campaign should your office romance take a turn for the worse.

You might also enjoy reading the first part of this post on Your Career titled  Office Romances. 

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Copyright ©2016 by Ransom (Randy) Place

About the Author

RANDY PLACE IS A JOB-FINDING and executive coach, writer on career topics, broadcaster, and host of For twenty-three years, he helped thousands of employees who had been let go from JPMorgan Chase find jobs. And he coached executives at CBS Television, Pitney Bowes, and major outplacement firms in New York on job-finding techniques, communications skills, and selling strategies. An accomplished seminar leader and speaker, Randy has designed and presented workshops on interviewing, telephoning techniques, job-search writing, and sales training nationwide. Randy's groundbreaking nationally syndicated radio series, Your Career Service, has been heard on over two hundred radio stations across the United States. And his articles on career topics have appeared in the Wall Street Journal's National Business Employment Weekly. A former broadcast journalist in New York, he has also been a commercial spokesperson for an array of national and regional advertisers. In addition, Randy was a sales executive at NBC Radio and the New York City sales manager for syndication at Wolper Productions. He holds a Bachelor's in Sociology and Broadcasting from Syracuse University, and a Master's in Journalism from New York University.