The paradox of making New Year’s resolutions

The following 60-second coaching vignette has been excerpted from my book, Your One-Minute Job Finding Coach:

 

The paradox of making New Year’s resolutions and setting goals is you cannot live in the present while thinking about the future. To live in the here and now is where it’s at. “It is not the attainment of the goal that matters,” said British writer and social reformer Havelock Ellis, “it is the things that are met with by the way.”

To handle things you meet with along the way to a goal is like keeping your eye on the ball. A batter focuses on whacking a pitched ball rather than on the bases he hopes to race around when and if he should hit a homer.

These are reasons why setting goals and striving to meet them doesn’t work for everyone. Where is it written that you have to set a goal and then feel defeated when you cannot reach it? An alternate to goal setting is to create positive statements and repeat them often. Rather than saying “the goal of my business is to net 80-thousand dollars next year,” try an affirmation like this: “I’m in the here and now, generating successful strategies while handling important details.”

Then act as if your proclamation has already come to pass. To write and repeat positive statements can change behavior as you start acting like the winner you introduced in your positive statement.

You’ll find more about setting goals in the chapter titled “Taking Care of Number One” in my book, Your One-Minute Job Finding Coach. Click here to order.

Copyright ©2016 by Ransom (Randy) Place

 

About the Author

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RANDY PLACE IS A JOB-FINDING and executive coach, writer on career topics, broadcaster, and host of yourcareerservice.com. For twenty-three years, he helped thousands of employees who had been let go from JPMorgan Chase find jobs. And he coached executives at CBS Television, Pitney Bowes, and major outplacement firms in New York on job-finding techniques, communications skills, and selling strategies. An accomplished seminar leader and speaker, Randy has designed and presented workshops on interviewing, telephoning techniques, job-search writing, and sales training nationwide. Randy's groundbreaking nationally syndicated radio series, Your Career Service, has been heard on over two hundred radio stations across the United States. And his articles on career topics have appeared in the Wall Street Journal's National Business Employment Weekly. A former broadcast journalist in New York, he has also been a commercial spokesperson for an array of national and regional advertisers. In addition, Randy was a sales executive at NBC Radio and the New York City sales manager for syndication at Wolper Productions. He holds a Bachelor's in Sociology and Broadcasting from Syracuse University, and a Master's in Journalism from New York University.