You cannot avoid gossipmongers at the office. Gossipers love to spread rumors that might not be true and pass on confidential insider information. They dish out dirt so you’ll like them. Gossipers make it seem like they’re sharing confidentiality to make you feel special and so you’ll like them.
A derogatory statement about someone hurts three people. The someone being gossiped about, the gossiper, and the listener.
The reputation of the person being gossiped about is being trashed. If gossip is repeated often enough, it tends to become fact in he minds of listeners.
The gossiper is hurt because he becomes a rat rink for purposefully or inadvertently harming another’s reputation and ruining careers. The gossiper is also guilty of violating the spiritual commandment about not bearing false witness.
And you, the listener, are damaged because your mind has been manipulated to view the gossiper’s target in a less than stellar way. This can hurt your relationship with that person if you know her.
However, there is a flip side of the gossip coin. Newsy gossip can be good for your career. As I point out in my book, “Your One-Minute Job Finding Coach,” gossip is news that can help you tune in to what’s going on inside your company: hirings and firings along with opportunities you might want to take advantage of.
When it comes to giving you career advice for how to handle gossip mongers, you be the judge as to the kind of gossip you want to tune into and the kind of gossip you want to avoid. To tune out of tittle-tattle, invent an excuse to leave the talking zone. And above all, don’t become a gossiper yourself by repeating what you’ve heard.
The reference above to office gossip in my book can be found in its chapter titled, “What to do for an encore now that you’ve landed.” In a series of one-minute coaching vignettes, you’ll learn how to be a better employee. This will enable you to keep your job longer. Click here to order Your One-Minute Job finding Coach.
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